3 Steps to Developing a Robust Mind Set/ Part 3

by Cris

3. Develop self-belief

It is known that when you choose to enroll others in bringing your vision to life, not only will you increase your chances of success but you will most likely do it in a shorter time.

More importantly, however, is that when enrolling those that will assist you in bringing your vision to life; you should give special attention to the one which you will have on board at all times. The one that will remain, when everybody is ready to abandon ship: YOU. Thus, you would do well in developing absolute self-confidence.

When you act with self-belief, those around you are less likely to stand in your way and will be drawn towards you and your vision in order to make it happen. Thus, it will not only make others give you “permission” to succeed but it will tug you along through the rough patches when you most need it.

Without self-belief it is very unlikely that you will be able to carve a successful path.  The fact is with any endeavor comes obstacles. Sometimes these obstacles are merely short lived and quite straightforward to overcome.

However, if these short lived obstacles become a common occurrence or in the worst case scenario drag on for long periods, it will require that you hold steadfast to the belief that you will be able to pull through no matter what.

Your word is your bond.

In order for you to reach your goals you have to, not just believe that you will be able to make that goal come true, but more importantly ,have the self-belief that you are the person who will get you there.

Self-belief stems from your own thoughts that you hold about yourself.  Self-belief is closely linked to your self-esteem.  In order for you to have robust self-belief you must first be at ease with who you are as a person.  In other words you have to accept who you are as a person. Review the post: Become emotionally free of the opinion of others.

You must have an image of self which you can rely on. You have to act in a way that the “real you” as you go about your daily life can be fully expressed rather than being trapped within you because of fear, shame, insecurity, and anxiety, or any other emotionally blockage.

In my personal journey of discovery I found that the quickest way to develop self-belief is to be true to one’s own word.

From now on consider your word your bond.

When you declare that you will do something, do everything possible to honor that.  Not just to others but to yourself. The effect is that you will build trust not just with others but with yourself.  You will develop self-trust.  You will be someone that people, but more importantly you, can rely on. Your self-image will grow strong.

Things to consider: If  you have been holding on to a particular goal or to a particular promise, whilst acting towards making it happen on a consistent basis, with the intention of making it happen but after some lengthy time, you are still no closer to making it a reality. You should be strong enough to re-evaluate  your progress.  You need to look at what is constraining you from achieving your goal, and decide if by making changes to your course of action, you will be able to materialise it.

Your motto should be: for every problem there is a solution, and I am able and capable to find it.

Being true to your own word is not the same as simple stubbornness. There is no point in persisting with a course of action despite of evidence that you are on the wrong path, after you have made the commitment to tread it.

You should consider if the course of action that you are pursuing is the most adequate; you might be under- resourced, this could be financial, inadequate tools, a non-existent or weak social network, etc; not have the talent that your goals require; not possess the right personal skills to convert your vision into reality and so forth.

Remember along the way that any failures you might have had, do not represent the whole you. Do not judge your whole worth, as a person, against any failure(s) that you might have had.

After evaluating your position you then must decide if you could bridge any gaps and proceed to take necessary corrective action.  If still after any possible adjustments you are still falling short then you have to be resolute and focus on an alternative and dedicate your efforts towards making the alternative happen.

When being true to your words, start with small things first. If you say to someone you will meet them at a particular hour,  make sure that you are there when you said so.  If you say to yourself next week I will go for a jog, you make sure that nothing will stand on your way to make it happen.  Rain is not an excuse. Your friends invited for a drink, is not an excuse.

What is a learning process? If not a succession of continued, repeated failures, which step by step are being perfected until they gradually are replaced by successful attempts at first, eventually leading onto mastery.

Your word is your bond.

You will eliminate all the excuses that weaken your resolve to be your true self. In doing so you will develop a positive image of self that is strong and able. As you forge this character of being resolute, you will find that you will develop the ability to find the inner strength to cope with the unknown.

As you steadfastly move towards your goals, and you stick to your word knowing that you will deliver against it, your self-belief will grow stronger. As you do so, replace negativity with resourcefulness. Your motto should be: for every problem there is a solution, and I am able and capable to find it.

Crucial to developing self-belief are your internal opinions of yourself. Do not belittle your greatness as a wondrous human being on par with all the natural wonders of this world. Your potential is unlimited.

Any images that you have of yourself of worthlessness should be replaced by empowering ones. This can be done through visualizing exercises where you replace negative pictures of yourself as defeated, deflated by those of a strong, triumphant individual. At some point I will write a post on visualizing.

Remember along the way that any failures you might have had, do not represent the whole you. Do not judge your whole worth, as a person, against any failure(s) that you might have had.

Besides, what is a learning process? If not a succession of continued, repeated failures, which step by step are being perfected until they gradually are replaced by successful attempts at first, eventually leading onto mastery.

Hence, if you are not failing, you are not learning or growing for that matter.

In order to develop self-belief you have to willingly accept that you will make mistakes and embrace wholeheartedly learning opportunities in order to develop abilities that will boost your self-image. The more willing you are to err along the way, the more open you will be to gaining knowledge and skills. The quicker you will learn. This will enable you to cope confidently with what your environment will demand of you.

Crucial to developing self-belief are your internal opinions of yourself. Do not belittle your greatness as a wondrous human being on par with all the natural wonders of this world. Your potential is unlimited.

Finally, as you get accustomed to being self-reliant, you should focus on the end goal with the certainty that you ultimately create your destiny.  That your empowering thoughts lead to your actions. And these, moment by moment are shaping your future reality. Take each action without wavering from your conviction that you are able and capable to build your desired life.

Do not give to excuses.

If you want something, just go after it.  Do not pander to internal and external negative chatter. Do what is required. Believe in yourself.

Please do leave a comment if this post resonates with you in any way.  If it stirs you positively and you feel someone else can benefit from it, feel free to share this post.

Wishing you great success

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

keldyn March 18, 2010 at 8:57 am

Cris great blog you touched on a subject of interest to me perhaps one of the greatest secrets of successful people. If we have belief then anything is possible and their are no barriers that can stop us. Their are certain and different things that stop us from getting to where our goals are. Personally in my home business i stated off really having fear on the phone talking to people i did not know. So belief is very important otherwise we would just stop at our fears or when things get hard or do not turn out like expected. Also i would just like to mention that most people anticipate instant success when they start a business or buy products. In most situations you would know this is not the case its a wave effect with highs and lows until we have 100% belief and set standards for ourselves and then its more constant success.

Cris March 18, 2010 at 9:18 pm

Hi Keldyn. Thanks for dropping by. I totally agree with your comments. In particular that you should definitively ride the highs and the lows without abandoning self-belief that you will eventually pull-through. The highs and the lows are both inevitable when you set on course to achieve any worthwhile goal. The secret is to take constant action and not be disheartened if success doesn’t ,like you rightly say, appear instantaneously. Through persistent action the results will eventually show.

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