3 Steps to Developing a Robust Mind Set/Part 2

by Cris

2. Change your default thinking to “I can”.

Beliefs are but solidified thoughts.  If you think constantly: “I cannot”. You most likely will not carry out whatever you think you cannot achieve.

The alternative?

It is quite simple.

Just start thinking that you can, even if deep down you might have some doubts. Whenever the action you are supposed to exercise becomes part of your awareness, it pops in your mind, rather than thinking: “I cannot”, think: “I can”.

Focus on what you would like to do, rather than on your doubts and fears and the how? And the what?  Thus, if you wanted to start your dream business, and the first thought that keeps popping in your head is: “I cannot”, instead think to yourself: “I can” even if at first the “I cannot” thought feels the most natural response by default.

Beliefs are but solidified thoughts.  If you think constantly: “I cannot”. You most likely will not carry out whatever you think you cannot achieve.

The “I cannot” simply acts as a comfort blanket that hides your fears, and knowledge gaps, and allows you to stay safe but keeps you from taking action and far from your ultimate goal.

By saying to yourself “I cannot” you ultimately block any creativity on your part to finding possible solutions and courses of action that could take you to your goal. The “I cannot” stifles creativity. You stop looking for answers. Not because they do not exist. But because you said so to yourself. You stop even before trying.

Thus, in order to bring your project to life you must, at every time it comes to mind, internalize the thought “I can”.

Do not at this stage worry about the details.  Do not let the small details overwhelm you. Even if at this stage you do not have the full picture on how you are going to succeed. Do not let that stop you.  Do not let fear and doubt creep in.

Most often than not, those that embark on journeys of their own do not have it all figured out before achieving success. They do not have it all figured out before they set out in their quest.

The most important thing is to have the desired outcome in mind and set on your course, all the details that will unfold can and will be dealt with, along the way.  One of the most important ingredients of successful individuals is their state of mind.  They merely believe that they can and are prepared to deal with the eventualities that sprout along their path.

Therefore, when you confront yourself with your thoughts about a particular endeavor that you would like to undertake and find yourself with “buts”, “what ifs” or “I cannot”, instead repeat it to yourself “I can” as many times as necessary and as you are comfortable with.

After all, what do you have to lose? Right? If you stay with the thought “I cannot” you are defeated. You will not even attempt to throw your efforts behind it. Therefore, persist with the alternative. Do give it a try.

After 2 to 4 weeks start to look for morsels of evidence to back your thought of “I can” and gradually create and solidify a belief that you are capable of making your goal happen.  Keep adding to the evidence.

A great question to ask yourself is: “Has anybody done what I am thinking of doing?”  If the answer is “yes”, then you have precedence.  This is a plus and should motivate you to proceed.

If, however, the answer is “no”.  Then ask yourself: “Did anyone in the history of mankind trail blaze a non trodden path?”  “And if so, were they successful?”  If you can answer “yes” to these last questions.  Great!  You have precedence.

Most often than not, those that embark on journeys of their own do not have it all figured out before achieving success. They do not have it all figured out before they set out on their quest.

So now bit by bit throw yourself into peeling the layers that have prevented you from taking action and resolve to carry out what it takes to make your goals a reality. Look for any knowledge gaps and commit to learning and acquiring the skills necessary. If there is a skill which you feel that right now would prevent you from moving forward and you think it might take considerable time to learn, or perhaps you feel it does not come naturally to you, consider an alliance with one or more individuals that can make up for it. Create your own mastermind group.

Alternatively, simply contract out the skill.  For example do you want to create a membership site but lack the technological skills.  Do not let this stop you. Outsource the skill.  You can find Web Developers on oDesk, PeoplePerHour, Outsource2India, Guru.com and Elance.

If you require personal skills, dedicate time in acquiring them. Skills like public speaking, marketing, copy-writing, etc.  Nevertheless, all these can be leveraged from other people’s natural aptitudes.  Whatever you do, keep on moving with the goal in mind with a “I can” attitude and do not let lack of knowledge or skills stop you.  These can be learnt or acquired.

If it is a matter of resources, these can be borrowed. The only one resource that you will not be able to borrow is time.  Instead you will need to allocate it more efficiently.

If your why is big enough the how and the what are merely incidentals, that will be uncovered and reveal themselves along the way. As popular belief has it: you will be able to cross the bridge when you come to it.

The most important thing is to get started.  Keep on moving. Along the way you will develop the character, the skills set and whatever else necessary to deal with the challenge in hand.

Go on.  Rise to the challenge. It will be worth it.

Hope you found this post useful.

My next one in this series is on developing self-belief.

Stay tuned.

Please do leave a comment if this post resonates with you in any way.  If it stirs you positively and you feel someone else can benefit from it, feel free to share this post.

Wishing you great success

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